![]() Instead, it’s an older male relative or friend of the father (or group of such relatives and friends) who takes the lead in coming-of-age rituals. When we think about classic rites of passage, we often think of fathers initiating their sons into the mysteries of manhood.īut as Richard Rohr - a Franciscan friar who writes about male spirituality and leads rites of passage for men - notes in his book From Wild Man to Wise Man, in both mythology and in traditional cultures, it is rarely the father who directly guides the initiate. Why Fathers Shouldn’t Be the Ones Who Initiate Their Sons into Manhood But while this idea is very well-intentioned, fathers are in fact the wrong person for the job. Given the dearth of culturally-embedded rites of passage in the modern world, some fathers decide to create their own “DIY” coming-of-age challenges for their sons. Instead of being generative, their masculine energy becomes destructive. Instead of stepping into their roles and responsibilities, and gaining a sense of confidence, competence, and purpose, they feel stuck in limbo. Without an initiatic experience into positive, grounded manhood, young men are left to be buffeted by the winds of anomie and nihilism. The resulting lack of transitions and pivot points may be a significant source of the ills plaguing men today. Throughout time and across cultures, societies have developed rituals to help usher young men from adolescence to maturity - from dependence to independence.Īs has been noted by cultural anthropologists, rites of passage in the West have declined due to many factors, including suspicion of rituals and disintegration of communities. Like this illustrated guide? Then you’re going to love our book The Illustrated Art of Manliness! Pick up a copy on Amazon.We’ve talked in the past about the importance of young men having a rite of passage or initiation into manhood. Of course your chopstick skills won’t only allow you to get rid of household pests, but to deftly eat Asian cuisine at restaurants and when traveling without resorting to asking for a fork.ġ: Rest one chopstick in the nook between the thumb and index finger of your dominant hand.Ģ: Bend your ring and pinky finger underneath the chopstick to add support.ģ: Grip the second chopstick between your thumb, index, and middle finger, like you would grip a pen.Ĥ: Slide your middle finger down so that it supports the bottom of the upper chopstick.ĥ: Use your index finger to pivot the upper chopstick up and down so that it meets the tip of the lower chopstick.Ħ: Practice with easy foods like marshmallows and grapes, before working your way up to the harder stuff. ![]() Miyagi himself until Karate Kid II to finally accomplish this feat. But, with time, you may just find yourself tossing out your fly swatter. To get to that level of chopstick zen mastery, you’ll need a lot of practice on easier targets, like sweet and sour chicken. Miyagi and Daniel-san try to catch houseflies between their chopstick tips are among the most exciting moments in utensil movie history. The Karate Kid taught kids of the 80s a lot about bravery, integrity, and - of course - rad chopstick moves. “Man who catch fly with chopstick, accomplish anything.” –Mr.
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